So much has happened in the past few months since I last blogged. Last summer, when I took a hiatus from writing, I came back announcing I was pregnant.
Well, this year . . . I'm not pregnant.
And I'm still fully employed.
In fact, not only did I return to my full time job, but I also signed up as a stylist for Stella & Dot. I'm having so much fun selling this fabulous line of jewelry and handbags. You can check out my online store at http://www.stelladot.com/stephatkins
Before you think I'm a complete slacker, I did guest blog for Grace at Sense and Simplicity once. You can read it here (there's even a video of Noah).
But why haven't I blogged regularly? For one, I've been stressed out and busy! For two, every moment I'm not working or having a trunk show for Stella & Dot, I'm spending time with my children.
But recently, a decision in our family has put my mind at ease and allowed for less stress.
Jason and I have decided that Jason would become a stay at home dad.
Yes, you read that right - Jason left his office job at Cornell, where he worked for 12 years, to stay home full time with Noah and Imani.
I couldn't be more thrilled.
And what have we been smoking to believe it's healthier to send our kids off to daycare to be raised by a stranger so we can make a small salary just to say that we work?
Don't get me wrong. I completely understand the need for daycare for many families. I've been there. As a single mom with Imani, I didn't have a choice but to send her to daycare while I worked. And I understand that for some families, both parents must work to make ends meet.
I get it.
But I have been utterly shocked by the response in saying my husband is staying home. I know if it had been I who had chosen to stay home, the response from many would have been different.
To be honest, when I was pregnant and the topic of Jason staying home came up, I was adamantly opposed. "'It would be terrible for our marriage" I'd tell people flatly. I thought I'd be jealous.
Did you know that there were roughly 158,000 stay at home dads in the US in 2010 compared to 5.3 million stay at home moms? The trend for stay at home dads is growing though. Fortune Magazine reported that over a third of its “50 Most Powerful Women in Business” had a stay-at-home spouse.
I'm blessed to have a husband who is man enough not to measure his worth by his paycheck and who is confident enough to break societal norms to do what we feel is right for our family.
I'm also blessed to have a job that pays well that I actually enjoy (most of the time) .
I've urged him to become a regular writer for Decorating Addiction, but still no response there.
He might pursue artwork (since that's what he went to school for), but he's not sure.
But for now, I'm happy with him just playing 500 Rummy with Imani and changing Noah's diapers.
Did you think the couponing had slowed because a baby was born?
Think again . . . he's only gotten better at his skill! Yes, this sexy man still holds the title of the Coupon Cowboy. How lucky am I?
So yeah, we're living the dream -- but this dream isn't about how much money we're making.
We're sacrificing a pick up truck in exchange for not missing out on Noah's first steps.